tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-62128802096741861982024-02-21T04:01:09.054+08:00兩性關係兩性關係的本質,首要在生命核心價值很相應,至純至性,嚮往最真與最美;帶給彼此陽光、喜樂與正向,不怕失去。Unknownhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13137009107676139635noreply@blogger.comBlogger168125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6212880209674186198.post-63593651762196962052015-04-10T10:15:00.002+08:002015-04-10T10:20:18.647+08:00部落格變動公告本部落格將不再更新。<br />
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<a name='more'></a>她也沒清楚想過,自己結婚,該有獨立自主能養活自己的能力,要有經濟能力來支持自己的小家庭,不是靠男方家族來提供。如果太太用的是先生賺的錢,是天經地義的事;但是她如果一直用婆家的錢,久了總是矮人一節,沒有尊嚴,傳統社會的公婆對媳婦,總是無法像自己兒子那般看待,很難無條件的給,也許連說話都沒份量,以後會有很多的是非口舌,況且醫學院至少要少要念五年以上<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">……</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">妳說我這當姑姑的,能不提醒她嗎?」</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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緣份是很有趣的東西,如果是我,我不會介入自己的價值判斷,我會先恭喜外甥女長大了戀愛了,再問她一些細節,了解兩個人的交往狀況,用問話幫助對方釐清,提出不同角度和視野幫助對方思考,盡量不要用自己的經驗嚇唬對方。是否準備好了,現在年輕人自有他們開闊務實的地方。
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">中午出去用午藥石,同事談到現在社會很奇妙,人常常坐電梯下樓,再搭車到離家不近的運動中心跑步。他說為什麼不爬樓梯、走路呢?這讓大家又聯想到我們現在住大廈裡,連對門鄰居都不認識,而鄉下地區大家和鄰居都很熟悉。大家感嘆人和人之間的距離真的越來越遠了。</span><span lang="EN-US"> <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">其實,這也只是表象,人和人之間的距離並不是因為認不認識而決定的。即使最親的親人之間,一直以來心靈上的距離都是存在的。</span><span lang="EN-US"> <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">晚上太太談到他大哥和女兒之間因為夫妻關係的誤解而不親,又提到我弟弟跟弟媳說「媽媽只有一個,媳婦可以再娶」的渾話。</span><span lang="EN-US"> <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">天底下多少夫妻是床頭吵,床尾合?有多少人是因為子女而忍氣吞聲?有多少人用離家出走或外遇來逃避?有多少人無法隱忍而大打出手,甚至刀棍相向?</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"> </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">父子、母女、兄弟姊妹,即使有血親關係而同住一個屋簷下,也可以咫尺天涯。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"> </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">關係真的是對彼此有益嗎?還是關係最後變成生命的魔咒和遮障,有了關係反而徒增迷障偏執,讓彼此的生命更加困難重重和痛苦?</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"> </span><u><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">高宜凡</span></u><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">文章《</span><span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://www.cna.com.tw/magazine/24-1/201402270003-1.aspx"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span lang="EN-US">全球吹起獨居風</span></span><span lang="EN-US"><span lang="EN-US"> </span></span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span lang="EN-US">樂單族,向你招手!</span></span></a></span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">》說:「社會觀念大解放,一個人居住,不再代表孤獨,也可以是快樂生活的象徵。」</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">為了讓單身族在</span><span lang="EN-US">2</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">月</span><span lang="EN-US">14</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">日情人節也能活得自在,</span><span lang="EN-US">2003</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">年起,每年的情人節已被定為「國際樂單節」(</span><span lang="EN-US">Quirkyalone Day</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">),消解情人節「應該有人在身邊」的心理壓力。</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">根據《歐睿國際(</span><span lang="EN-US">Euromonitor International</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">)》調查的</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">戰略市場訊息</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">,全球獨居人口上升,據國際研究機構</span><span lang="EN-US">Euromonitor</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">估算,全球獨居人口由</span><span lang="EN-US">1996</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">年的</span><span lang="EN-US">1.53</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">億人,增至</span><span lang="EN-US">2011</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">年的</span><span lang="EN-US">2.77</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">億人,</span><span lang="EN-US">15</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">年間上升逾</span><span lang="EN-US">80%</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">,部分地區如瑞典、挪威等,逾</span><span lang="EN-US">40%</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">住戶為單人住戶。</span><span lang="EN-US">2013</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">年新數據顯示:獨居最盛的地區在西歐、美國與東歐,獨居比率最高的前</span><span lang="EN-US">5</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">個國家是挪威、丹麥、芬蘭、德國、瑞士。瑞典首都斯德哥爾摩還一度被封為「全球獨居首府」,近六成住宅都只有一個人。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">主計處資料,</span><span lang="EN-US">2010</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">年台灣的一人</span><span lang="EN-US">(</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">獨居</span><span lang="EN-US">)</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">戶近</span><span lang="EN-US">163</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">萬戶,占全台家戶數的比重,已來到</span><span lang="EN-US">22</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">%,估計今年逼近</span><span lang="EN-US">200</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">萬戶。</span><span lang="EN-US">2012</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">年</span><span lang="EN-US">15</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">歲以上單身人口已超過</span><span lang="EN-US">960</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">萬,比起</span><span lang="EN-US">2006</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">年增加</span><span lang="EN-US">100</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">萬人。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"> </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">對於獨居比率越來越高的傾向,有些人憂心忡忡,擔心獨居對社會關係和族群發展有不良影響。其實這才真的杞人憂天,因為真正的問題根本不在獨居,而是在我們建立了什麼樣的關係。傳統社會婚姻觀念「男大當婚、女大當嫁」不過是一種沒有主體性的從眾心理(</span><span lang="EN-US">Conformist mentality</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">)。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">獨居也許是更自然、更有主體性,如果結婚能比獨居更浪漫更有主體性,那結婚自然比獨居更有吸引力。結婚好或獨居好,選擇結婚或獨居,只是很單純的吸斥原理,或也可說是緣分問題。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">如果關係是束縛、是黏著依賴,不是為了互相成全,不是為了一加一大於二,不是為了讓彼此更自由更獨立,如果所建構的關係不會讓生命更有意義,更珠光輝映,那要這樣的關係做什麼?</span></div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6212880209674186198.post-23279025199952420922015-02-28T13:49:00.001+08:002015-02-28T13:49:20.239+08:00給巴基斯坦女人翅膀的天使(02-28-2015<u>一賢</u>)<br />
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">一位住在巴基斯坦窮鄉僻壤的女孩,在從事鄉村婦女運動</span><span lang="EN-US">10</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">年後到</span><span lang="EN-US">TED</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">演講《我如何保護婦女不被光榮賜死</span><span lang="EN-US">(How I work to
protect women from honor killing) ?</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">》,這個女孩甘冒大不韙的勇氣很令人震撼,世界上正因為有這樣單純無畏而充滿正義的精神,才使我們的世界在那麼多灰心喪氣中看見人性的光輝。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">她的名字是</span><span lang="EN-US">Khalida Brohi</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">,在她</span><span lang="EN-US">16</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">歲的時候,從別人口中聽到她最好的友人被</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">「</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">光榮賜死</span><span lang="EN-US">(honor killing)</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">」</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">。所謂光榮賜死,是說他們巴基斯坦社會不准女性有婚前性行為,或是婚後外遇,或自由戀愛,當有女子違反這條禁例而被家人知道以後,為了家族的榮譽,會由父親、兄長或甚至弟弟將她處死。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">在巴基斯坦,每年有</span><span lang="EN-US">1000</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">人因此而死。因為自己的好友受害,</span><span lang="EN-US">Khalida</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">這才第一次感受到這個習俗的荒謬,她覺得她必須做點事情,來避免這樣的事情繼續發生。於是發起「醒覺運動」</span><span lang="EN-US">(wake-up
campaign)</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">捱家捱戶去宣傳,她覺得女人跟男人一樣,應該受到公平的對待。功不唐捐,她的努力,在她住的社區得到了一些認同和回應。</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">後來,藉由父親新買的電腦和網路,她將這樣的訊息傳到國外,從英國、美國和澳洲得到很多的支持。但是不久,她居住的社區開始對這樣的運動反感,她家的車子被破壞,父親收到警告信,她的辦公室外面遭到撞擊,生命面臨威脅。因此只好放棄這樣的計劃,離開<u>喀拉蚩</u></span><span lang="EN-US">(Karachi)</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">。</span><br />
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<span lang="EN-US">18</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">歲她又回到<u>喀拉蚩</u>,檢討上次的失敗,發現連那些她想保護的女性同胞們也不了解這是為她們好。於是她改弦易策,她察覺到到先前忽略了伊斯蘭社會的核心價值,忽略了他們所引以為傲的傳承,像音樂、語言和剌繡,且少了一個運動所需要的經濟基礎。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">傳統的伊斯蘭社會,女人必須跟男人一起負擔家計,但卻沒有相對的權力和地位。她謙虛地向社區道歉,希望能協助提昇伊斯蘭的核心價值,</span><span lang="EN-US">2013</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">年成立了讓女人可以學習音樂、剌繡和語言的</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">「</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">蘇噶婦女中心</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">」</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">,並教育她們應有的權利,接受</span><span lang="EN-US">6</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">個月的課程之後,給她們貸款,讓她們可以獨當一面,成為一個領頭羊。這樣的中心成立之後,她已經在</span><span lang="EN-US">25</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">個村莊,訓練了</span><span lang="EN-US">900</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">多個婦女,希望十年內可以培養超過一百萬個婦女。</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">「</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">蘇噶</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">」</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">等同在巴基斯坦社區給女人翅膀的天使,</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">「</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">蘇噶</span><span lang="EN-US">(Sughar)</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">」</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">在穆斯林烏都語的意思是有技能有自信的女人。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">她看到光榮賜死的荒謬隨即發起醒覺運動,是單純、也是主動;有其對人性和公平正義的信念和堅持,呈現出一種浪漫和認真;失敗之後,她勇於謙虛檢討,面對過去錯誤,也願意由衷地看到社區的核心價值和需要,重新出發。</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">從</span><span lang="EN-US">16</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">歲到今年即將</span><span lang="EN-US">26</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">歲的小女子,在全世界都感覺無力的傳統伊斯蘭社會,竟然可以在那麼樣艱難的環境中,成就如此讓人景仰的變革,難怪人們頌揚她是「馬拉拉第二</span><span lang="EN-US">(“The Next
Malalas”)</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">」,她回應說「在巴基斯坦,每天都誕生一個新的馬拉拉</span><span lang="EN-US">(“In Pakistan,
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<span lang="EN-US">(1974</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">年的<u>霍金</u>夫妻</span><span lang="EN-US">)<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">電影「愛的萬物論」改編自理論物理學家<u>史蒂芬</u></span><u><span lang="EN-US">·</span></u><u><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">霍金</span></u><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">之妻<u>珍</u></span><u><span lang="EN-US">·</span></u><u><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">王爾德</span></u><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">(</span><span lang="EN-US">Jane Wilde Hawking</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">)所寫的回憶錄《</span><span lang="EN-US">Travelling to
Infinity: My Life with Stephen</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">》,講述她與前夫</span><span lang="EN-US">30</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">年的婚姻生活。</span><span lang="EN-US"> <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">故事是無神論者<u>史蒂芬</u>與有宗教信仰的<u>珍</u></span><u><span lang="EN-US">·</span></u><u><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">王爾德</span></u><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">墜入愛河,不久<u>史蒂芬</u>身患重病,篤信英國國教的她驚獲男友得漸凍人重病,只有</span><span lang="EN-US">2</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">年壽命時,選擇不離不棄,以初戀浪漫的情懷,一路伴隨照顧</span><span lang="EN-US">…</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">隨<u>史蒂芬</u>從區區的劍橋大學博士研究生,到日後舉世無人不曉、著作暢銷逾千萬冊的物理大師。她在背後默默付出的奉獻與支持,包括:辛苦照顧行動不便的患病丈夫,兼顧自身學業研究;乃至於撫育</span><span lang="EN-US">3</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">個小孩,獨自支撐全家大小而不可避免的磨耗與無力,影片中展現了她獨特的女性堅韌與柔情。尤其,在她和教會合唱團指揮和風琴老師的友情產生曖昧情愫時;她還是在<u>霍金</u>發病的第一時間就選擇了急救霍金與婚姻而不是私情,令人動容。雖然婚後</span><span lang="EN-US">25</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">年他們仍然分手了,但所經歷的關於愛、關於婚姻、關於家庭,關於依賴與放手,還是讓人深思和感動。</span><span lang="EN-US"> </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">「關係」一定是發生在真正「自由」的人之間,「自由」一定是允許彼此做自己的最真,才可能榮耀彼此。男女關係需要很自由的契約才可能學到「無常」的流動,親密關係必須以靈魂立約才可能對準天地、才可能神聖,信仰不一定需要在體制內,對<u>史蒂芬</u>而言,信仰就是「盡心盡性,做最真最好的自己</span><span lang="EN-US">(</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #333333;">gave all of yourself, to what you believed was right</span><span lang="EN-US">)</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">」。靈魂的自由就是隨時可以解約,什麼時候在一起有加分就在一起,什麼時候在一起沒有加分就分手!這是自然,不是不負責任,一切以「雙方平等、自由」做自己的最真最自然為前提。初次聽到這個說法,覺得很高調,以為那不是一般人做得到的,也沒有見過這樣的關係典範。但是皈依以後,覺得親密關係,捨此無解。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">片中,婚姻開始時,<u>霍金</u>夫婦的確是以互相榮耀開始的;但原來預期只有</span><span lang="EN-US">2</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">年壽命的婚姻卻走了</span><span lang="EN-US">25</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">年,電影演得很含蓄,但</span><span lang="EN-US">2</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">人的關係確實已走至無法互相榮耀了,分手是為了彼此的最真。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"> </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">佩服電影可以把分手處理得如此細膩成熟,雖然這未必全<a href="https://www.blogger.com/null" name="_GoBack"></a>是當時的事實。但戲是為了真,我還是很欣賞電影的藝術表現。當<u>珍</u>被<u>史蒂芬</u>告知他將去美國受獎,而護士<u>依蓮</u>會陪他去時。<u>珍</u>喃喃自語、略帶哀怨無奈的說:以前你接到受獎通知都會第一個通知我。然後鏡頭就轉到行李打包,象徵了分手。雙方很快的都又有了新關係。影片最後,<u>史蒂芬</u>望著前方,<u>珍</u>問他在看甚麼?<u>史帝芬</u>說:看!我們倆的創造</span><span lang="EN-US">(</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">三個孩子</span><span lang="EN-US">)</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">。他們又回到了可以互相感恩和榮耀的時刻,這才是最美的分手和重新交流!</span><span lang="EN-US"> <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">現代社會,離婚愈來愈普遍了,但我們很不會處理分手。常常在媒體上看到為分手而自殺、恐嚇或萌發報復行為。離婚後對孩子監護權及教養權的爭取也常常淪喪為父母屈服對方的手段而不是以子女的意願和安全為優先。分手難,是因為一開始就不了解關係的神聖性是源自於靈魂的立約,而不是一輩子的承諾。如果不是以「雙方的平等、自由」為前提的靈魂立約,又何必綁住一生一世?隨時可以解約會不會更真、更自然,也更美?</span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07569584955343706360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6212880209674186198.post-5075128696099261052015-02-12T10:32:00.001+08:002015-02-12T10:41:14.573+08:00全身綁到只剩輸卵管(02-12-2015 <u>一賢</u>)<br />
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">梵蒂岡從</span><span lang="EN-US">2</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">月</span><span lang="EN-US">4</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">的到</span><span lang="EN-US">7</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">日的宗座文化委員會展開了「</span><span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://www.cultura.va/content/dam/cultura/docs/pdf/Traccia_en.pdf" target="_blank"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">婦女文化:平等與差異</span></a></span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">」為期三天的討論,<u>佩蒂</u></span><u><span style="font-family: MingLiU;">‧</span></u><u><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">米勒</span></u><span lang="EN-US">(Patti Miller)</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">發表《被婦女問題所困的教廷</span><span lang="EN-US">(</span><span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://religiondispatches.org/vatican-entangled-in-womens-issues/" target="_blank">Vatican Entangled In Women’s Issues</a></span><span lang="EN-US">)</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">》一文,批評天主教仍走不出女人是第二性</span><span lang="EN-US"> (deuxième sexe) </span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">的窠臼。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">教宗<u>方濟各</u>表面上在為婦女發聲和給她們創造更有意義的角色,但其實口惠而實不至,還不如請教宗說說像小狗上天堂和兔子生寶寶那樣可愛的事。強調男女有別,主外或主內都是「主角」,依然可以找到「平等與差異的互惠」、「</span><span lang="EN-US">(</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">母性</span><span lang="EN-US">)</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">生養成全」的能力,反對貶抑女性身體的價值,要促成女性在教會「更廣泛、更深刻」的參與。但真相是教宗<u>方濟各</u>冀望婦女擁抱傳統男主外女主內的角色,在先天差異之中各守天分的平等。</span><span lang="EN-US"> </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">實際上教宗<u>方濟各</u>並無意要給予婦女真正的權力,以改善婦女在教堂的現況,教宗<u>方濟各</u>不想承認婦女的牧職,不想改變宗座文化委員會清一色男性的結構。他們只是更堅持互補論</span><span lang="EN-US">(Complementarian)</span><span lang="EN-US"> </span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">男主女從</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">的觀點,真正的意圖是想要擦亮過去教堂對婦女晦暗的評價。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">教廷的努力像一場災難般開始,他們新拍的一部招兵買馬的短片大受揶揄,找來義大利性感金髪美女演員<u>南琪·布里利</u></span><span lang="EN-US">(Nancy Brilli)</span><span lang="EN-US"> </span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">擔綱</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">演出,想要藉此吸引更多婦女提供短片,做為在羅馬舉行,</span><b><span style="color: red; font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">婦女無法參與的主教級會議</span></b><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">的一部份幕後討論資料。結果慘不忍睹。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<u><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">方濟各</span></u><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">表示:「</span><span lang="EN-US">(</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">母性生養成全的</span><span lang="EN-US">)</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">『生成性</span><span lang="EN-US">(generatività---the
generative path)</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">』作為一個象徵性符號,集中於所有母親,並開擴了視野去傳輸和保護生命,它不侷限於生物領域</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">」</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">,</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">「</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">可以用四個動詞概括意義:『欲求、生出、照顧和放手</span><span lang="EN-US">(desiring,
bringing into the world, looking after, and letting go.)</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">』。</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">」「</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">覺察到很多婦女作出貢獻,包括在家裡工作、在教授信仰的道理、在牧民活動、在教育,還有在社會、文化和經濟領域。你有沒有注意到,婦女呈現了天主溫柔的面容、祂的憐憫,這可以理解為她們更樂意花時間及空間去作這些貢獻、她們接受而不是排斥。在這個意義上,我喜歡以陰性幅度去形容教會,她是一個樂於接觸他人的胎腹,再生產生命。」</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">女性的身體一直受到不同形式的奴役、商品化或者殘害,但一提到避孕、墮胎,教宗的立場馬上變成</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">「</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">女性的身體必須是教會</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">」</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">,扛起天主賦予的天命。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">實際上,會議參考文件大多是不高明的、被動的教廷式男性中心腔調,感覺像是一個<b>中古時代的傳教士出現在當代社會</b>一樣的突兀。</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">這可能是近代歷史上最荒誕的一個時刻,教廷卻試圖用如下的形象來描述會議文件:</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">一個恐懼「婦女和性</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">」</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">的機構,選擇一個無頭、去個人化的女性形體,並將她的私處用繩索綑綁來刻劃婦女的形象。這個機構拒絕寬恕避孕,以突顯他素來確信的婦女性徵破壞力,並</span><b><span style="color: red; font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">藉此維持「性與生育」的連結</span></b><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">,聲稱懷孕是走出綑綁的懲罰,要利用婦女生殖解剖的形象來譏諷和束縛。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">一方面說女性「社會從屬」男性的模式已經過時了,另一方面又說女性要負起傳輸和保護生命的天職。好像在說:女人的身體是每一個人生命的起點,第一性雖是男人,但你們女人仍是第一性的來處,何必在乎屈居第二性?</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">「過去</span><span lang="EN-US">(</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">難道只是過去?</span><span lang="EN-US">)</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">婦女在男性社會必須很用力去爭取專業經驗或決策角色,所以反映的區域延伸到不同的文化,他們用不同的聲調轉型和展現,有時和政治及強勁的理想行動糾纏,在這全球化和強力辯証性的地區,急切地需要找出答案。我們完全致力於發現並了解女性特點,諸如:功能、角色、尊嚴、平等、認同</span> <span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">、自由、暴力、經濟、政治、權力、自主等等的主題上。」<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span>教廷這些話官腔官調,了無新意。</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">另外教廷說什麼婦女比男人更溫柔更寬容,或是在子宮中找到婦女肉體最偉大的表達。好像忽然接到警告說整容手術是不接受身體的自然,是對女性真實認同的侵害</span><span lang="EN-US">(“aggressive
toward the feminine identity”)</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">,猶如一襲肉製的罩袍</span><span lang="EN-US">(a burqa made
of flesh)</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">。教廷這些話令人忍俊不禁發笑。教廷怎不也說說男人對自己生殖器長短大小一樣有很多焦慮?怎不提提與男人自信有關的威而剛?</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">為婦女爭取真正的平等,絕不是歌頌子宮、發發思古之幽情</span><span lang="EN-US">(pastoral
“ideological and ancestral left-overs”)</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">所能奏功。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">最後,委員會歸咎教</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">會為何鮮少婦女,因為婦女們不再像過去那些從屬家庭的日子裡那樣</span><span lang="EN-US">——</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">在午後花時間研讀玫瑰經或參與宗教奉獻。</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">「在西方,</span><span lang="EN-US">20</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">歲到</span><span lang="EN-US">50</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">歲的婦女幾乎不去望彌撒,也不參加宗教婚禮,不放宗教假期,而且她們一般無法展現面對男性宗教本能的信心。因而教會所維護的女性形象並不實際,這在今日也不可行。」</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">為何賦予女性權責這麼讓教會男人厭斥害怕?如果教廷這麼不懂女人又要避開女人討論女人,這麼多父權式地替女人包辦設想,想要解決這個第二性問題無異緣木求魚啊!</span> <span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">資訊界的諾貝爾獎「</span><span lang="EN-US"><a href="https://zh.wikipedia.org/wiki/%E5%9B%BE%E7%81%B5%E5%A5%96"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">圖靈獎</span></a></span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">」,以他命名。在二戰其間,他因為</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">數學與邏輯的特殊天份接受英國最高當局延攬徵召,</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">協助軍方破解德國<u>希特勒</u>著名的作戰密碼<u>恩尼格瑪</u></span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">(Enigma)</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">,估計讓戰爭提早兩年結束,減少難以數計的傷亡。但因情報工作的機密性,他的卓越貢獻,要到</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">50</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">年後檔案解密了,才為大眾所知。有些他當時的手稿,甚至是到</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">2012</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">年、他的百年冥誕,才</span><span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://www.bbc.com/news/technology-17771962"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span lang="EN-US">首度被政府通訊總部(</span></span><span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">GCHQ</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span lang="EN-US">)解密公開</span></span></a></span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">。</span><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; line-height: 22pt; text-indent: 24pt;"> </span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">1952</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">年,他的同性伴侶協同一名同謀一起闖進他家盜竊,<u>圖靈</u>為此而報警,但英國警方的調查結果,反而使他被檢警單位以「明顯的猥褻和性顛倒行為」定罪。為了可以繼續他的研究,他在坐牢跟接受荷爾蒙注射「療法」(即化學閹割)之間,選擇了後者。持續一年多接受治療期間,產生乳房不斷發育等副作用,使原本世界級馬拉松運動選手的他在身心上受到不可逆的極大傷害。因為被定罪,他失去了研究經費,停止了教職,職業生涯也被迫中斷。</span><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; line-height: 22pt; text-indent: 24pt;"> </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">蘋果公司的商標有時會被誤認為是源於<u>圖靈</u>死前咬了一口的蘋果,但該圖案的設計師和<u>賈伯斯</u>都說純屬巧合。<u>賈伯斯</u>接受</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">BBC</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">訪問時說:「這不是真的,但是上帝啊,我們希望它是真的。」(</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">"It isn't true, but God, we wish it were."</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">)</span><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; line-height: 22pt; text-indent: 24pt;"> </span><br />
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">2013</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">年,英國女王<u>伊莉莎白二世</u>給予了<u>圖靈</u>死後赦免狀,從</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">1945</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">年至今,包括<u>圖靈</u>在內,只有四個人曾被英國政府追授死後赦免狀。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">同志民權運動者<u>塔契爾</u></span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">(Peter Tatchell)</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">表示,只因為<u>圖靈</u>有名氣,就給他特殊待遇,這是不對的,<span style="color: red;">英國政府還欠其他蒙受同樣罪名的五萬多名同志(有很多都還在世)</span>一個道歉和赦免。他也希望政府能夠對<u>圖靈</u>的死因,重啟調查,因為他很可能被情報單位視為威脅而謀殺。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">戰爭期間,破解了作戰密碼<u>恩尼格瑪</u>的<u>圖靈</u>說:「我們在扮演上帝。」戰爭結束後,他說:「我們贏了,但上帝沒有贏。」只有那模仿上帝、自以為可以將他人定罪的人類,才會愚蠢又自大地以為,自己可以贏得了任何戰爭。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6212880209674186198.post-56596772810689459622015-01-12T15:47:00.004+08:002015-01-12T18:27:33.785+08:00性行為的「正當性」(01-12-2015 <u>一心</u>)<br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhji5Nht1LsuhgTJj5mZBM6Cookg6Oo98J1Z6lpWb9AvNO1NxGAjagyyqGMgWbdkayvSfSliHhbnAXeBonVqPysar0PRne_wUzbXX7bBk0sEkDwMX8xYYqY4KbR4g0j8S0Uqi_8NOGnMgvL/s1600/%E6%80%A7%E8%A1%8C%E7%82%BA%E7%9A%84%E3%80%8C%E6%AD%A3%E7%95%B6%E6%80%A7%E3%80%8D+(01-12-2015%2B%E4%B8%80%E5%BF%83).jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhji5Nht1LsuhgTJj5mZBM6Cookg6Oo98J1Z6lpWb9AvNO1NxGAjagyyqGMgWbdkayvSfSliHhbnAXeBonVqPysar0PRne_wUzbXX7bBk0sEkDwMX8xYYqY4KbR4g0j8S0Uqi_8NOGnMgvL/s1600/%E6%80%A7%E8%A1%8C%E7%82%BA%E7%9A%84%E3%80%8C%E6%AD%A3%E7%95%B6%E6%80%A7%E3%80%8D+(01-12-2015%2B%E4%B8%80%E5%BF%83).jpg" height="246" width="320" /></a></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">聽<u>呂秋遠</u>律師上</span><span lang="EN-US"><a href="https://livehouse.in/channel/ptt/record/-Jf3N2nV8v6KMGtmZ13M" target="_blank"><span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">PTT</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span lang="EN-US">鄉民有約</span></span></a></span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">,回答鄉民的提問,發現,有一半以上的問題,都跟通姦有關,感情的安全感,似乎還是現代人煩惱來源的大宗,有的人是小三、怕會觸法,有的是原配、怕被劈腿,有的是不確定對方是否單身、想要保護自己</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">…</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">他說,通姦罪會不會成立,也跟遇到的法官很有關係,<b>有的法官覺得這都什麼時代了、通姦早該除罪,就會輕判;有的法官很保守,就會重判。</b>台灣法律上的傳統見解是異性戀才成立,但近來有了新的見解,男男、女女也都成立。</span><br />
<a name='more'></a><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">另外還有一個案例,來自一位女性當事人,對方不想用保險套,並說如果懷孕就結婚,結果她真的懷孕了,對方的回答卻變成:不然妳告我啊!當事人很生氣,問律師不能告嗎?律師說:<b>司法只能管騙財,不能管騙色。</b></span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">(01-02-2015 </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">蝶生</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">)<b><o:p></o:p></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">今年已</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">66</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">歲的女礦工</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">Lois
Jenson</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">當年</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">27</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">歲</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">(39</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">年前</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">)</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">,她是這家鋼鐵公司的第一位女礦場僱</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">員,與</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">600</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">個男人一起工作。頭</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">9</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">年,口頭性騷擾、肢體侵犯</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">(</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">輕浮</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">)</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">發生得很頻繁,為了那份</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">3</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">倍於普通女工的工資,她都忍了下來,後來告到州政府調解,州政府要公司賠她傷害費</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">$11,000</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">,公司不但拒絕,她的上司還羞辱式地加以強暴,忍無可忍找上律師,花了</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">14</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">年時間,她告贏了公司性別歧視的創傷民事官司求償,創下了職場反性騷擾的<a href="https://www.blogger.com/null" name="_GoBack"></a>里程碑。</span><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">圖示:照片左邊就是當年的女礦場</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">僱員</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">Lois Jenson</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">後來人權班邀請大仁科技大學諮商中心輔導老師<u>郭明旭</u>分享:從《北國性騷擾》影片談性別平等議題。他的專長:性教育、性別教育、性侵害與騷擾防治。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<u><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">郭明旭</span></u><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">老師ㄧ開始舉個例子讓大家去思考:譬如人權班有三位同學,</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">A(</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">男生</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">)</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">摸了</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">B(</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">女生</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">)</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">的臉,</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">B(</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">女生</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">)</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">摸了</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">C</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">的臉,</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">C</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">摸了</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">A</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">的臉,反過來</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">B</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">摸了</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">A</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">的臉,</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">C</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">摸了</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">B</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">的臉,</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">A</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">摸了</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">C</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">的臉,在這不同的情況下,各自的感受如何?會有相同的感受?</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"> </span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">他從這個例子幫助大家了解我們會<b>受制於傳統對男女性別的刻板印象影響,通常男生摸女生,被摸的女生的感覺會較不舒服</b></span><b><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">…</span></b><b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">。</span></b><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">他問我們,現在台鐵火車上設立</span><span style="color: red; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">婦女夜間搭乘專用車廂,我們覺得這是好事?還是不好的事?現行法律,只要單方面感覺不舒服,即構成性騷擾</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">,這是好?還是不好?</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">他認為現在台灣政府所制定的《性騷擾防治條例》並不能真正解決問題,因為它<b>會弱化女性,讓女性一直處在是弱者的狀態。他認為要真正解決問題女性必須跳脫自己是弱者的性別框框</b>,從思維上改變。當男性在言語和行為上做出騷擾行為時不須大驚小怪,可反擊回去。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">不妨想想種族隔離與種族歧視的關係,男女不同校、不同班、不同校車,乃至不同餐廳、不同電影院,會減少性別成見嗎?性別隔離無助於性別歧視,女性面對性騷擾,怎麼勇敢表態,才是關鍵。</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">他分享一個例子:有位每週會去獄中服務的女護士,體型微胖胸部豐滿,有位受刑人大哥每次見到她就色瞇瞇地看著她的胸部,並說:「你的胸部好大!</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">..</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">」後來這位女護士學會反擊回去。有一次當這位大哥又做出同樣的行為時,她便回說:「你那隻好大,要不要翻出來看?」這位大哥聽後便愣住,從此不再對她做出同樣的行為。</span></div>
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<u><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">陳為廷</span></u><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">襲胸,有人搬弄社會學理論,說它是一種</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">「</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">權力</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">」</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">的展現,其實,<u>陳為廷</u>哪來權力?而他的魅力又怎可能比得上五月天、<u>金城武</u>!襲胸這件事,很有可能被誇大了。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt;">「</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我把你當人看!把你當市民看!我教育你!你的基因沒問題!我好好提供機會給你!我要按照這個地方的遊戲規則走!</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt;">」</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">這個地方的遊戲規則是他們訂的,公職人員候選人是他們圈定的,民意代表一經選上就不能行使罷免權,即使他們都只聽黨意不聽民意,法案一經通過就不能行使複決權,公投的設計或創制是為了通不過公投,這叫做「</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">權力</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">」。在這個人家設好的</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt;">「</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">局</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt;">」</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">裏,你沒退路,也沒出口。如果<u>馬英九</u>只有</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">魅力</span><span lang="EN-US">(</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">高帥富</span><span lang="EN-US">)</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">、沒有權力</span><span lang="EN-US">(</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">不出任公職</span><span lang="EN-US">)</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">,我相信台灣現在一定幸福<a href="https://www.blogger.com/null" name="_GoBack"></a>多了。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 22pt; text-indent: 24pt;">侵犯性自主到底長什麼樣,可以單方面指控就成立嗎?會不會是在打落水狗?或因嫉妒人家的光環而利用他的</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 22pt; text-indent: 24pt;">「</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 22pt; text-indent: 24pt;">前科</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 22pt; text-indent: 24pt;">」</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif; line-height: 22pt; text-indent: 24pt;">落井下石、一再污名化?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">襲胸是不是性侵,決定於動作的連續性,一開始可能只是某種試探或調情,如果遇到對方抗議或示警便立刻縮手,還叫做性侵嗎?只要發生在陌生人之間就叫做性侵,發生在非陌生人之間就不叫做性侵嗎?答案當然不是。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">也不是女性才會遇到身體受到侵犯,只是男性多見怪不怪,或礙於面子沒講出來。不少男人在西門町電影院都有遇過鹹豬手直攻下體的經歷,通常只要推開或換座位,鹹豬手都會知難而退不致於鍥而不捨。男人遇上鹹豬手直攻下體,有必要大喊色狼或變態嗎?</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我們都有過侵犯他人或被侵犯的經驗,被侵犯的可能是身體或利益,而侵犯他人的有可能是個人或公權力,倘若比起試探性的襲胸,公投法、罷免法的高門檻,是不是更具威脅、更不懷好意呢?</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">也許<u>陳為廷</u>曾經遇到跨不過的障礙,讓他無法做最真的自己,但他今天坦承自己的愚蠢,表示他希望面對。曾犯過的錯或輕浮,當時也已受到懲戒,有需要無限上綱到與「他父親功在黨國,</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">強姦一</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">個台灣女人算什麼」相提並論嗎?</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">往者不可諫,來者猶可追。當一個人選擇說真話的時候,我們應該予以鼓勵,因為這需要極大的勇氣,特別是他還有著學運領袖的光環在身上。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">延伸閱讀:</span><span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://www.stormmediagroup.com/opencms/review/detail/5bd94d37-9092-11e4-9ff2-ef2804cba5a1/?uuid=5bd94d37-9092-11e4-9ff2-ef2804cba5a1"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;"><span lang="EN-US">三一八的共同體</span></span> (<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;"><span lang="EN-US">張娟芬</span></span>)</a></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">單挑一個我們很容易得分、很容易「政治正確」的個案來批判,只是更顯得這個社會的虛偽和怯懦。面對整個社會的停滯、倒退,我們放任自己在個案上,不成比例地批判,選擇性地避重就輕,反而讓那些不把人當人的權力者,開心竊笑了。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="background: white; color: #141823; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">這個社會充斥著道德警察,就像</span><u><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">雨果</span></u><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">《悲慘世界》裡的</span><u><span style="background: white; color: #141823; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">沙威</span></u><span style="background: white; color: #141823; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">緊緊追捕曾經犯罪的<u>尚萬強</u>!不去看到每個人背後的成長環境,就看不到社會對「性」的無知在複製與扭曲。只要把眼睛張開,仔細觀察,處處都有強凌弱的霸凌鑿痕、處處都有權力與資訊不對等的濫權侵權。但我們故意視若無睹、故意「明足以察秋毫之末,而不見輿薪」,只選擇那些很明顯、很容易找出加害者的議題,來證明自己也懂一點性別霸凌的是非,來凸顯自己也有文明的一面。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="background: white; color: #141823; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="background: white; color: #141823; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">因為偷了一條麵包,<u>尚萬強</u>被判刑五年,一個社會會輕罪重判,另一面一定是重罪輕判的雙重標準。讓嚴刑峻罰強化正義,才可以讓重罪輕判掩飾腐敗?</span><span lang="EN-US" style="background: white; color: #141823; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">作為生命共同體,我們學到了什麼?</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">首先,「</span><b><span style="background: white; color: #141823; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">談論性騷擾議題的時候,不宜先假設男性是潛在的加害者,女性是潛在的受害者。</span></b><span style="background: white; color: #141823; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">」這樣的假設,只是僵固化我們的性別偏見。身邊很多例子都告訴我們,男性也常常是性騷擾的受害者。大部分男孩被霸凌過,只是習以為常,不把霸凌視為霸凌。就像《艋舺》電影成長過程孤僻自卑的<u>周以文</u>,一下子就給「義氣」吸引了。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">再者,很多人用「病」的角度在看這個議題,各種療癒敘事紛紛出籠,然而,「病」絕對不能拿來界定一個人的生命,不斷用過去的遭遇來定義現在的自己,無助於一個人的自我定位。每個人都是<u>陳為廷</u>,<u>陳為廷</u>不是別人,這樣子才不會失去主體性。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="background: white; color: #141823; font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">你的意向,你要往哪裡去,會改變你對過去的詮釋。如果一直界定自己是個感情創傷的人,你將永遠挖肉補瘡;如果一直界定自己是個有正義感的人,你也不過是個嫉惡如仇、正義感十足的沙威。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我被侵犯過,但我對自己的界定,早就不再是那個被侵犯的小女孩了。如果我想到了過去那一刻,至今還受傷,代表我對自己的想像,還一直凍結在過去那一刻。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">對自己的想像很重要,我們都是<u>陳為廷</u>,每個人都需要一直更新對自己的想像,生命才能前進,這個社會才能前進。這個前進,不是切割過去,或選擇性遺忘,而是以一種更大的心量來含容,在每一個當下,生出一個真正的自己,真正的人。</span></div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6212880209674186198.post-89215294398126281862014-12-25T12:12:00.001+08:002014-12-25T12:12:58.945+08:00對陳為廷的集體性霸凌(2014-12-25<u>一書</u>)<br />
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">網路上一片撻伐,對於一個曾被連續性騷擾、性霸凌的男生而言,可能覺得莫名其妙。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">莫名其妙的是撻伐者真的會區別性騷擾、性霸凌、妨害性自主的界線嗎?</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">性騷擾</span><span lang="EN-US">(</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">告訴乃論罪</span><span lang="EN-US">)</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">、性霸凌、妨害性自主</span><span lang="EN-US">(</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">公訴罪</span><span lang="EN-US">)</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">不只發生在男對女,也發生在女對男,或男對男,甚至發生在女對女身上。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">這種身體侵犯通常發生在某一方強凌弱,統稱之為「性霸凌」。刻意強調男對女,是因為社會上大多數人認為男強女弱,但對一個曾被女生或男生連續性騷擾、性霸凌的男生而言,性霸凌就是性霸凌,沒有男對女、女對男、男對男、女對女的差別,只是被「性霸凌」的男生可能比被「性霸凌」的女生更羞於啓齒。</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">野蠻社會的特色是強凌弱。<u>陳為廷</u>曾經在某一個時空下扮演了的強凌弱的「性霸凌」;網路志工檢察官們一片口誅筆伐,因為他們當年沒有躬逢其盛,沒有參與到對他的「集體起訴」,他們群起鳴鼓而攻、要溯及既往,要他付出代價,要潛意識分析他是不是真心認錯,要集體診斷他有沒有可能繼續再犯。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">風水輪流轉,<u>陳為廷</u>現在是弱,媒體與網路是強。<u>陳為廷</u>對別人強凌弱的「性霸凌」的時空很短,媒體與網路對陳為廷強凌弱「性霸凌」的時空很長。一個是過去式,一個是現在進行式。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">不為什麼,只因為我們的社會還很野蠻。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<u><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">歸亞蕾</span></u><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">沈重一句「她是我妻子」,道盡世間的愛不是蠻橫的法律所能阻隔</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">畫面中,病患需緊急開刀要親屬簽名,<u>歸亞蕾</u>表明是病患的好友,醫生:醫院規定要親屬才能簽名,拒絕她的簽字,畫面轉到她急著找患者親屬的身影,那份焦慮是任何病患家屬都可感受到的苦。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">結果來了個只有血緣關係,卻無任何親情交流的姪子,這影響了患者被醫治的權利,錯過醫治的最佳黃金時間,讓活者留下深深的痛,就只因為他們是女女結合,冷血落後的法律依法不給予通行證</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">就一張蓋了章的紙,能代表什麼呢?能夠保證男女結合的愛,勝於任何女女、男男的愛嗎?情愛是靈魂的結合,由兩顆真心來決定,不是由有沒有性能力或生殖功能來決定。情愛像「結拜</span><span lang="EN-US">(kiat-pài)</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">、換帖</span><span lang="EN-US">(uānn-thiap)</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">」,豈可以性別來度量、來框囿設限。異性才能結合,就好比古人把同姓結合都當做近親通姦一樣荒謬!何不讓情愛像結拜、換帖一樣自然!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">多元家庭的議題,之前吵得沸沸揚揚,到現在又沈寂無聲,當時以為法案就直接通過,才是符應人性的需求,雖然有許多宗教團體囿於成見,有不同的聲音,但每個人的</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">「</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">性向自然</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">」</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">真的很不同,長輩不能因為想傳宗接代就強逼兒子多娶幾個吧!想傳宗接代是長輩的</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">「</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">自然</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">」,但可</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">能不是晚輩的</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">「</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">自然</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">」,夫妻有一方想生小孩,另一方不想生小孩,請問誰來決定其中的「</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">自然</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">」?結婚需要雙方同意,離婚不需要雙方同意;需要雙方同意才可離婚,那結婚也太像幫派了。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">夫妻可以邀請家族投票表決然後由多數票決定生不生、離不離婚?<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<b><span style="color: #002060; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">多數人的意見絕不能扼殺少數人的</span></b><b><span style="color: #002060; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;">「</span></b><b><span style="color: #002060; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">自然</span></b><b><span style="color: #002060; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;">」</span></b><b><span style="color: #002060; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">,這叫做</span></b><b><span style="color: #002060; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;">「</span></b><b><span style="color: #002060; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">權利</span></b><b><span style="color: #002060; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;">」</span></b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">。這跟長輩不能決定晚輩嫁誰娶誰一樣,一點都不難懂。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">尊重每個人的選擇,才會懂得什麼是完整健全的家庭。成家,絕非一定要男女結合、絕非一定要生小孩才算,就像自己不想生也可以領養非婚生子女一樣,真愛才是關鍵。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">有真愛才是家人,女女、男男共住,無礙真愛的存在。同性夫妻照樣能夠給孩子保護傘,給孩子最真最好的愛。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">請接納不一樣的愛,好嗎?</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">延伸閱讀</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">:</span><br />
<span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://opinion.udn.com/opinion/story/5776/583892" style="text-indent: 0cm;" target="_blank"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span lang="EN-US">從張惠妹、蔡依林再到輔大課指組——平權運動停滯十年的台灣</span></span> (<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span lang="EN-US">陳夏民</span></span>)</a></span><br />
<span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://yclou.blogspot.com/2014/12/blog-post_15.html" target="_blank"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: 微軟正黑體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span lang="EN-US">還不夠好的世</span></span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span lang="EN-US">界</span></span> (<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;"><span lang="EN-US">羅毓嘉</span></span>)</a></span><span class="MsoHyperlink"><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">婚姻平權很重要,但或許更加重要的是,我們究竟該怎麼做,方能減少因性別氣質不同而出現的霸凌。性別平權不該只是「有情人終成眷屬」,而是讓人們都能夠成為他們自己,讓人們,以他們自己的樣子成長。</span></div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6212880209674186198.post-60266367752670546652014-12-17T00:23:00.001+08:002015-01-19T12:50:23.954+08:00兩部同性戀紀錄片(12-17-2014<u>一虹</u>)<br />
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">《</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">淡水文化基金會</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">》</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">在</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">《</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">淡水藝術工坊</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">》</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">播放兩部同性戀紀錄片-</span><span lang="EN-US">2000</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">年的</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">《</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">歷史課</span><span lang="EN-US">(History Lessons)</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt;">》</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">、</span><span lang="EN-US">1994</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">年的</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt;">《</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">在南非出櫃</span><span lang="EN-US">(Out Of South Africa)</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt;">》</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">,導演<u>芭芭拉‧漢默爾</u></span><span lang="EN-US">(Barbara Hammer)</span><span lang="EN-US"> </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">第一部拍性解放身體的自由,美國很早就有女同志軍營、女同志選美</span><span lang="EN-US">…</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">,感覺好像來到「女人國」,性挑逗好像少女對身體的探索。有男生在座欣賞也沒被礙著,因為我嚮往靈魂層次。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">第二部同志在南非開會,討論議題包括跟父母坦承性傾向、跟喜愛的同性表達愛、如何面對學校社區的排斥、自我認識找到自己的主體性</span><span lang="EN-US">…</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">。有非洲黑人說他們不知道有同性戀這回事,即使跟同性有身體的接觸,他們也不承認是「同性戀」,大概以為只是兩小無猜吧。這個族群最保守最排斥同性戀,也是最容易感染</span><span lang="EN-US">AIDS</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">的,是因為他們知識匱乏,不承認也不願作防範吧?有位女性同志說因為伴侶是女性,會被非洲男人當作處女而想強暴她,這是非洲女同志最大的危機。</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">南非總統<u>曼德拉</u>雖然立法保障同性戀人權,但社會上還是充滿歧視。他們認為需要有女性導演拍同性戀電影,女性會比男性拍法更細緻,男性通常只注重結局的張力,女性則會在每個過程中佈局</span><span lang="EN-US">…</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">。我喜歡同志們說出困難,感動社會人心的紀錄片,不久前看過一部美國青年同性戀,不被男友家人接受,男友生病過世也不讓他們見最後一面或參加喪禮,他抱憾憂鬱痛不欲生,旁人看了都會生惻隱之心,接受同性婚姻的。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">有位南非青年說他有「政治」傾向,但他的同志朋友都不關心政治,他在這個圈子很猶豫,也會抗拒自己是同性戀,只要一走進這個同性氛圍裡,就讓他全身緊張起來,到後來他也漸漸習慣不談政治的同性朋友。他生長在一個嚴肅的家庭裡吧,親子間不討論同性戀問題,父母也不會跟他談心。南非是非洲最進步的國家,民風尚且如此,遑論其他非洲國家。我忽來靈感,在保守的親子家庭關係裡,需要推廣全家一起看西方電影的文化,會碰觸到家人敏感的神經,也是必要的家庭教育吧。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">當大家討論同性戀如何被親人和社會接受時,有人表示會受傷,同性戀是他(她)的人權,不該被(家)人公開檢視!聽起來好像是私領域,但現實世界唯有經過討論,才能讓家人或社會對同性戀有正確的認識,進而督促政府制定合乎人道的政策法令,以保護同性戀者的人權,所以又牽涉到公領域。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">道德不是「強制性的」,是每個人日常生活的準則之一。道德不是用來衡量別人的,而是用來節制自己。一味地以高道德標準審視論斷別人,極易流於雙重標準,造成互相糾舉做彼此檢調機關,恐非社會之福,甚至可能抹黑侮辱他人的人格,逼人去死。道德一旦變成「強制性的」,就變成法律。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">世人好用自己的道德框框約束批判同性戀,嚴重侵犯私領域,有違國際人權兩公約;相信上帝</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">的</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">性情有真理的公義和聖潔</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">,</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">公義和聖潔存在於異</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">性戀也</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">存在於</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">同性戀,少了上帝</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">的</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">性情,異</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">性戀也不討上帝歡心,給人自由,才可能給出</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">公義和聖潔</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">會後</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">《</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">工坊</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">》</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">員工問場地需否改善,談到公司今年四月就向</span><b><span style="color: red; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">新北市政府</span></b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">標下場地,卻遲遲不能經營,政府對民間經營不放心限制一大堆,公司都照規定做到了,政府還是不願開放權利,讓公司進退兩難,虧損愈來愈大!</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">反觀</span><b><span style="color: red; font-family: 新細明體, serif;">新北市政府</span></b><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">為雲門舞集</span><span lang="EN-US">BOT</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">開發,在淡水滬尾炮臺和老淡水高爾夫球場間找了一處靜謐山林地給</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">《</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">雲門</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">》</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">開發,還給予經費補助,甚至為了<u>周美青</u>要到</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">《</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">雲門</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">》</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">剪綵,還強拆淡水球場的老違建和球道,好像強盜趕走廟公,究竟孰者合法孰不合法,完全任政府把玩於股掌之間。我想到<u>許文龍</u>企業家說黨國政府管得愈多,經濟愈衰退,企業自有其生存之道,政府插手所為何來?</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">(12-06-2014 </span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">一心</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">)<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast;">男孩與女孩相遇不久、發現對彼此都有好感之後,女孩說:我是手榴彈,會傷害每個跟我有關的人,我必須將傷害降到最低。
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast;">兩個人,其實,都把死亡放在心上了,但<span style="color: #002060;">女孩的選擇是安全防護,男孩的選擇是把自己攤開</span>。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast;">男孩主動去了解女孩的生命,不是她的病情,而是她的喜歡、她的恐懼、她的一切一切,甚至把自己身為癌症兒童的珍貴願望與女孩分享,一起踏上荷蘭的圓夢之旅<span lang="EN-US">──</span>去拜訪她情有獨鍾的作家。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast;">作家助理,帶他們去參觀了</span><span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://www.annefrank.org/en/Anne-Frank/"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast;"><span lang="EN-US">安妮</span></span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-bidi-font-family: 微軟正黑體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast;"><span lang="EN-US">‧</span></span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast;"><span lang="EN-US">法蘭克之家</span></span></a></span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-fareast;">。二次大戰期間,少女安妮為躲避納粹屠殺,與家人藏身在頂樓密室中,長達兩年,最後被密告、逮捕,在集中營身亡。這個紀念館,完好地保存了當時的原貌,用來掩飾通道的書櫃、狹長的樓梯<span lang="EN-US">…</span>,就跟<u>安妮</u>日記中所描述的一模一樣。</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">紀念館沒有電梯,女孩必須揹著自己的氧氣筒,一階一階往上爬。當她終於到達頂樓,看見了牆上的照片時,聽見深邃大眼睛的<u>安妮</u>對她說:「在這個時刻,我無法想到痛苦,反而想到仍然存在的美好,試著收復自己的幸福,想想你周圍的一切美好事物,保持愉快。」好一個</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">「</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">看有不看無</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">」</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">!</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">女孩一直刻意保持的安全距離,就在當下消失了,她轉身擁抱男孩,深情獻吻。那也是<u>安妮</u>和小男朋友初次接吻的地方。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">當她體驗到了最愛,才體會到了滿點的最痛。莊嚴的痛楚</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">(An Imperial Affliction)</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">,甜蜜的酷刑</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">原本恢復情況良好的男孩癌症復發,病情急轉直下。樂觀而勇敢的他,辦了個生前喪禮,只有三個人,她、他、和他們共同的好友。女孩應男孩的要求準備了悼念文:「</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">…</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">對我們的小小無量</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">(little infinity)</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">,我有說不出的感激,這個小小無量比給我整個世界還值得;在倒數的日子裡,你給了我永恆。對於這點,我永遠感激!」</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">I cannot tell you how thankful I am for our little infinity. I wouldn't trade it for the world. You gave me a forever within the numbered days, and I'm grateful.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">喪禮上,女孩上前致詞,臨時決定放棄原本準備的悼念文,改成更適合家屬和當下氣氛的。因為她發現,喪禮的舉行,不是為了死去的那個人,而是為了活著的人。最愛的人不需要再聽她說什麼了,因為,他已經在她的生命中復活。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">劇中有另一幕,也十分令人動容,她的父母告訴她,他們已經開始上社工的課程,有一天,他們將能夠幫助其他的父母親,走過生命的痛。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">小說原著作者<u>約翰格林</u><span lang="EN-US">(</span></span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">John Green)</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">說他的信念是「短命依然可以有意義而完善。」</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;">"A short life can still be a meaningful life, that a short life can still be a good and full life."</span><a href="https://www.blogger.com/null" name="_GoBack"></a><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">「拉近生死距離,真正的關鍵就是『愛』。真的愛他,真的會讓他在你的心裡面『乘願再來』!將他內心最想對世間好的願望,代替他實現出來!」</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">我們都同意,愛是要來讓人自由的,我們都同意,所有關係的初衷、包括家人之間的關係,都是為了讓每個人實現真正的自己,然而,為什麼我們常聽到人說愛是束縛</span><span lang="EN-US">(love binds)</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">,愛是盲目</span><span lang="EN-US">(love blinds)</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">,<b><span style="color: red;">為什麼很多時候,我們在關係裡感覺到的不是自由,而是擔憂、恐懼、壓力、罪惡感、牢籠?</span></b></span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">邀請大家分享,在關係中感覺自由、或感覺束縛的體驗,新朋友美蓮分享的是母女關係,媽媽總是不斷叮嚀她要如何如何,這樣的態度從小到大都沒變過,彷彿她仍是那個未成年的女兒。瓊慧接著呼應說,她母親也是這樣的,不過,媽媽過世後,她現在想起那樣的叮嚀,卻是很溫暖,說著說著,她眼眶紅了。<u>芊瑜</u>說,同儕間,有時候會為了怕朋友難過,而不敢說真話,甚至,說假話,讓她覺得不自由。<u>純君</u>說,工作上,會為了怕別人失望,而給自己很大的壓力。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">我問大家,有沒有能夠貫穿各種關係的倫理,是真的能幫助我們回到關係的初衷?大家回答:信任,關心,尊重</span><span lang="EN-US">…</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">放了「</span><span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://youtu.be/J-QyXKd2usg" target="_blank"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">拔一條河</span></a></span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">」的片花。這些片段,我看過好幾次了,每次看每次仍會熱淚盈眶。問大家,看到了什麼?為什麼動人?</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">「全心全意的投入」,「有志一同的合作」,「他們用自己扎扎實實的力氣,鼓勵了大人。」「他們說:會跌倒,就努力啊!」「後面沒有路了、不能退了,就前進啊!」讓<u>芊瑜</u>印象最深刻的一句話是:「小孩子都站起來了,社會還站不起來嗎?」是的,孩子們幫助家鄉找到了站起來的機轉,那就是「<b>榮耀</b>」。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">想想看:孩子怎麼學習到價值觀的?</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">從大人發亮的眼神中。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">請大家回憶看看,我們曾在長輩或父母眼中,看到什麼樣的價值?他們的雙眼何時是發亮的?</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">碧玉</span></u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">說,自己不曾在父母身上看到欣賞的眼神,比較是父母自己的身教,帶給她勤奮、踏實的典範,她倒是從女兒們身上,學到很多,她們的生命力啟發了她。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">純君</span></u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">和<u>千慧</u>是姊妹,她們的父親很愛拉二胡,而且,每次練完一首新曲,總要把全家大小找來,在家裡辦個小型演奏會,雖然被叫過去看表演的當下,會覺得好煩喔,但後來總會從父親身上,感染到極大的喜樂,彈奏樂器時、眼神發著光的父親,也鼓舞了她們選擇自己所愛的事情去做。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">一止</span></u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">的父親病危被兒子發現,急救醒來,用盡全身力氣跟兒子說了一聲「謝謝!」那用整個生命說一句話的由衷,令她深深的感動!母親晚年,曾在路上車禍,臉都腫了,卻照樣去辦事情,把嚴重的事輕鬆地看待,那種靈活的喜心,是她的典範。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">瓊慧</span></u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">有位堅毅的媽媽,總是把自己照顧得很好,很獨立,即使後來生病了,也很努力復健,讓自己快快好起來,不要讓兒女操煩。父親則是非常的慈心,去幫醫院收款時若看到付不出錢的病人,會主動幫忙籌款或代墊。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">羽茜</span></u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">的媽媽,非常的沉著冷靜,又很有生活智慧,在幾次意外事故中,做出最快速精準的動作,安撫人心,減少慌亂。<u>芊瑜</u>的父母,勤奮工作、認真生活,給了她一個溫暖的家</span><span lang="EN-US">…<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">說話的時候,大家的眼神也亮了起來,甚至有人泛著淚光,聽著聽著,突然覺得,透過大家生動的敘述,各位爸爸媽媽都走入了我的生命,誰說爸媽只有生養我的那對呢?當每個值得傳承的典範,都在我心中了,我的家庭變得很大!</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">衣穎</span></u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">則分享說,當她收到入學通知、有出國進修的機會時,她在父親眼中看見了「我需要妳」,而決定留下。至於母親,是一個很強勢的人,不論她做了什麼,母親從未給過一個讚美。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">這時候,我請大家兩手交疊、貼著胸口,眼睛閉上,感覺,我們都是衣穎:「在成長的過程,我的父母,不一定有機會能夠幫我建立信心,但這一切都過去了,我已經長大。我就是我自己的母親,就是我自己的孩子,雙手交疊,就是我握著自己的手,我有信心可以引導我自己,建立我自己的價值觀,活出我最嚮往的生命。」</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">「現在,讓我們一起進入<u>衣穎</u>父母的心,我就是<u>衣穎</u>的父親或母親,我的教育環境、生活背景,可能讓我非常拙於表達,讓我不懂得如何愛,但如果我有機會重新來過,我想跟<u>衣穎</u>說</span><span lang="EN-US">…</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">」</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">羽茜</span></u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">說:「我來試試看</span><span lang="EN-US">…</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">我都只看到不好的,是因為我希望妳能夠在那些不好的地方更加完善,希望妳完美。我的出發點只是希望妳完美。」<u>羽茜</u>說,這彷彿就是她的自我告白。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">我說:「親愛的,對不起,我以為妳知道妳自己有多好,所以,我都只挑缺點說,因為我想說優點就不必再提醒了,我以妳為榮,妳應該知道。」</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">碧玉</span></u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">說:「妳讓我好放心。妳都知道如何照顧好自己。」</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">瓊慧</span></u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">感嘆說:「從小到大,不論是家庭或是學校,都是用懲罰的方式,而不是鼓勵的方式,每次考試下來,班上幾乎人人有『獎』──依照個人標準被打手心。感覺這就是文化的差異,我們的大人都不知如何像西方社會那樣鼓勵孩子。」我說:「東西方文化當然各有優缺點,但我們要做的是認清楚現實,問自己:過去那套教養方式,真的有用嗎?如果沒有,為什麼還要繼續用?」</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">我們都在彼此眼神中認識「價值」。什麼會讓你的眼神發光?在眼神中,我傳達出什麼?愛是有條件還是無條件的?幸福是有條件還是無條件的?</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">如果我口中說著我很愛妳,但是,我卻只有在妳做的事情順我意時,我才開心,這樣子,妳從我身上學到的就是:「愛是有條件的,可以爭取、也可以失去。」如果妳很在意我,妳的所作所為就會是為了討好我、得到我的愛。妳不可能對真愛有信心的。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">一直把雙手放在胸口的<u>一止</u>,這時開口說:「我一直在揣摩<u>衣穎</u>的爸爸的心情</span><span lang="EN-US">…</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">,當妳拿到入學通知時,我感覺,他是真心以妳為榮的,但他想祝福妳的同時,又感覺到放捨不下</span><span lang="EN-US">…</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">,他的眼神,我覺得跟他的能量不足有關。」</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">一止</span></u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">舉了她母親和她三姊的例子,曾經有段時間,母親常常罵三姊,甚至看到三姊就覺得討厭,後來,她才了解說,當時母親在外為生計忙了一天,回到家,三姊是唯一能幫忙承擔家務的,也是唯一能夠當她情緒的出口的</span><span lang="EN-US">…</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">母親後來當然很後悔,也以行動和金錢支持三姊在照顧弱勢的工作。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">講到這裡,我回到投影片:</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">天為什麼光?因為,眼睛看得到。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">生命為什麼有喜樂?因為,內心的陽光很充足。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">我們都可以鍛鍊內在的陽光,也就是一種生命美感的鏡頭,透過這個鏡頭去看世間的一切。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">有眼睛能看,真好!</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">有耳朵能聽,真好!</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">有腳可以走路,真好!</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">可以呼吸,真好!</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">幸福,不是感恩,而是感動!</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">我對你好,不是因為你也對我好;</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">我對你好,是因為我深深受用天地的厚待,喜樂滿溢。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">在關係中,榮耀彼此,分享喜樂,幫助彼此活在當下。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">最後一段時間,我們一起做瑜珈禮拜。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">為什麼能量不足?因為花了好多力氣抗拒當下的感覺,不接納自己、不接納別人,自己活得不真,於是,也不允許別人真。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">在禮拜中,練習自己引導自己,回來每個當下的感受。每個呼吸,都是來幫助我對自己的身體、呼吸、情緒、心念,感覺更敏銳的。不論感覺到什麼,完全接納,完全包容。剛剛那一刻,已經過去了。每個呼吸,都是一個新的起點。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">最後一次瑜珈禮拜,獻給我們的父母親,或是其他摯愛的人,感謝他們曾經豐富我們的生命。我很自然地想起了母親,嘴角忍不住上揚,她享受生命的喜樂,在我心中、在我身上、在我每一個細胞中,母親已經活在我身上、我心中、在體內的每一個細胞,化作一股精神性的存在。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">所以我很確定,母親沒有死,我從來沒有失去過、也不必贏得母親的愛,同樣的,每一個我生命中的摯愛,都無法被贏得、也不可能被失去,而是永恆。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">下課後,跟<u>衣穎</u>一起去捷運站,她問我如何突破男女相。男女相,的確是我大半輩子的罩門,學法後,一點一點脫落。關鍵在哪裡?</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">過去,我之所以很依賴男女關係,是因為我渴望那種很深很深的情感交流,而我以為,只有在男女關係中,才能夠達到。然而,也一次又一次地失落。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">學法後,我發現,那種跟人很深的交流,其實取決於我自己對生命灑脫的程度。從感情依賴走到感情獨立,發現自己先做到可以一個人生活得很快樂,才不會給對方負擔,也才有心量讓更多人的憂悲苦惱、喜樂嚮往流入我的心底,當我能夠跟有志一同的夥伴們相互託付生命的重責大任,我的靈魂才有深刻的滿足。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">心好像海洋,不再需要混凝土消波塊的阻截屏障。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-hansi-font-family: "Times New Roman";">坐在捷運站裡的椅子上,我和<u>衣穎</u>,很自然地想起這個力量的源頭,那願意無所求無條件無對象、跟全世界談戀愛、不怕被傷害的親教師。如果我確實做到了一些些無所求的愛,那是因為我曾經從這裡領受過。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07569584955343706360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6212880209674186198.post-31912670150791086802014-10-25T23:48:00.001+08:002014-10-26T07:47:19.263+08:00媒體公器侵犯私領域(10-25-2014<u>一虹</u>)<br />
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<span lang="EN-US">1999</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">年德國電影《狂琴</span><span lang="EN-US">(</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">情</span><span lang="EN-US">)</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">難了</span><span lang="EN-US">(Gloomy Sunday - A
Song of Love and Death)</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">》電影以一女三男的四角戀為主軸,搭配「</span><span lang="EN-US">Gloomy
Sunday</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">」這首傳奇樂曲與猶太悲情,打造出一個迷離苦澀甜蜜傷感的愛情故事。這齣愛情故事告訴世人,能砍殺愛情的只有公權力與人云亦云的思考邏輯。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">男主角之一<u>拉西婁</u>成熟穩重,寬宏大量,會做生意。生日那天晚上</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">,</span><u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">伊歐娜</span></u><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">情繫鋼琴師</span><u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">恩得斯</span></u><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">身上,拒絕了</span><u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">漢斯</span></u><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">的求婚。走到了一個</span><span lang="EN-US">Y</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">形路口,</span><u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">恩得斯</span></u><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">走向左前方回住處的路上,</span><u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">拉西婁說</span></u><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">「每個人都必須自由的決定</span><span lang="EN-US">(free to
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">自那夜起,</span><u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">伊歐娜</span></u><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">、</span><u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">拉西婁</span></u><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">、</span><u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">恩得斯</span></u><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">之間的三人生活就在</span><u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">拉西婁</span></u><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">一句「</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;"><b>我寧可只擁有部份的她,也不要都沒有</b>」展開三人組合的愛情</span><span lang="EN-US">(ménage
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07569584955343706360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6212880209674186198.post-5297086460644220782014-10-10T23:52:00.000+08:002014-10-10T23:52:06.025+08:00被剝奪的罷免權(10-11-2014 <u>一心</u>)<br />
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">美國加州上個月底通過了一項被暱稱為「</span><span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://www.vox.com/2014/10/9/6951409/yes-means-yes-californias-new-sexual-assault-law-explained" target="_blank">Yes Means Yes<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;"><span lang="EN-US">(</span></span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;"><span lang="EN-US">是等於是</span></span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;"><span lang="EN-US">)</span></span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;"><span lang="EN-US">」的法案</span></span></a></span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">(</span><span lang="EN-US">SB 967</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">),規定在所有接受州政府補助的大學中,當學生向校方舉報受到性侵時,校方必須採取「正向表述同意標準」來認定</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">「</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">性侵</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">」</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">是否成立。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">有關「正向表述同意」條文內容是這麼說的:</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">「沒有抗議、沒有抵抗,或者緘默,都不等於同意。正向表述同意必須在</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">『</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">性活動</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">』</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">中從頭到尾一致,在過程中隨時可以反悔。參與者之間存在交往關係,或者曾有過性行為,都不應該被視為同意的指標。」</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">該條文也清楚表明當一個人在睡眠中,或因為毒品或酒精而失去行為能力時,都不可能給予這樣的同意。喝醉酒的人也不能以此為藉口說誤解了對方的意思。這個法律男女通用。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">加州是第一個將此標準正式立法、全州施行的。這條法律之所以會被加州快速通過,背景原因是美國司法部在</span><span lang="EN-US">2007</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">年所贊助的一項研究結果:每五位女性中就有一位表示,在大學時曾被企圖性侵或是性侵。這項研究後來獲得了政府最高層級的重視,包括教育部和白宮。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">過去,在性侵案件中,通常會以被侵犯者有沒有說「不」作為案件是否成立的標準(我不禁想到台灣那些判定性侵犯沒有違反小女孩意願的</span><span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://www.appledaily.com.tw/appledaily/article/headline/20100901/32779982/" target="_blank"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">恐龍法官們</span></a></span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">),這項法案的通過,將會讓「有沒有說不」的討論轉向「有沒有說好」,也意味著,校園性侵案中被判有罪的機率,將會高於刑事法庭。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">根據《哈芬登郵報》(</span><span lang="EN-US">The Huffington Post</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">)的民調,百分之</span><span lang="EN-US">59</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">的人支持、百分之</span><span lang="EN-US">21</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">的人反對這項法案。主要的反對團體之一「全國男性聯盟」認為,這會危害男性被告享有合法訴訟程序的權利,也有批評者認為,這法律不切實際、難以實行,因為根本違反了親密行為一般的進行方式。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">包括受害者權益、暴力防治團體、以及加大系統在內的支持者,則希望此法案會減輕報案者必須要提出證明的負擔,讓侵犯者能夠獲得(校方決定的)懲處,此法案的提案人民主黨州議員戴李昂</span><span lang="EN-US">(Kevin de Leon) </span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">說:這會讓關於性侵的對話,逐漸轉變為預防、正義和療癒的對話。女性主義作家<u>安·弗里德曼</u></span><span lang="EN-US">(Ann Friedman)</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">則試圖從另一個角度切入:「確認同意,會帶來更火熱的性愛。」</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">我想,即便不從犯罪防治面來說,這樣的法案,都會<span style="color: #002060;">提供給性行為的雙方一個緩衝的空間,一個對話的機會,因為,親密關係中,有太多未經確認的想當然耳,很多在一起數十年的伴侶到最後都會說,做愛是因為對方想要。到底誰想要?要什麼?為什麼不說清楚講明白?</span></span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">其實,性侵的認定,往往跟一個社會中對個人主權的定義有關,就像阿拉伯社會中女性地位低於男性,法律上認定的性侵案件必然比美國少。在台灣的大學校園中,若採取同樣的認定標準,性侵事件恐怕也不見得比美國少。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">這也令我想到,如果把政府和人民看成是性行為的雙方,選舉和公投就是人民說「好」的權利,罷免就是說「不好」的權利,當我們只有四年說一次好、又完全沒有說「不好」的機會時,政府要不強姦民意也難!在這種不民主的制度下,政治人物還可以大言不慚地說:你們選了我,就代表你們為我所有的政策背書,就代表你們從頭到尾都同意我的侵犯!</span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07569584955343706360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6212880209674186198.post-32176541699499976042014-10-03T13:10:00.001+08:002014-10-03T13:12:51.922+08:00越問,心越開(2014-10-03<u>宥娟</u>)<br />
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">心裡一直有一個問題,我許多次試著想要探索,但<b>感覺它像是一個古老的結,很難解開,下午的靜坐中忽然像是有所發現</b></span><b><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">…<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">傳統的一夫一妻制,似乎已成為一種人類根深蒂固的制約,似乎,這也是一種自我保護和保護別人的方式,它甚至是一種信仰與信念,當人們在感情的世界裡遇到困難時,如何的取捨才是兩全其美?既忠於自己又不傷害對方?</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">想起師說「真愛需要定力」,處理關係,真的需要智慧和冷靜,同理自己又同理別人是因為深深的愛,也需要深深的愛,以及尊重。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #002060; font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">性是什麼?師說:</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="color: #002060; font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">「全身從頭髮到腳趾無一處不是敏感區,無一處不流動</span><span style="color: #002060; font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">。</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="color: #002060; font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">」</span><span style="color: #002060; font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">身體很流動很舒服的狀態就是性,性是生命自然而然的狀態。那麼,有問題的,其實只在想蘊,以及想蘊所延伸出來的種種限制、控制和教條吧!</span><span lang="EN-US" style="color: #002060; font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我始終認為禮教不是用來創造文明,只能夠用來殺人。</span></div>
<a name='more'></a><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">看到一篇文章:<</span><span lang="EN-US"><a href="http://news.sina.com.hk/news/20120819/-53-2748489/l/951141.html"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">性</span></a></span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">>,作者訪談香港積極推動性教育的性學博士</span><u><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">何式凝</span></u><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">什麼是關係?問題不去碰觸不代表就會消失,它甚至會成為掩埋在底層會發酵的問題,能不能學習面對?很喜歡</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">何式凝</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">這一句回應:</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">「當人挑戰你時,你才會把自己的想法解說清楚,在為自己辯護的過程中想清楚自己所做的</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">。</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">」</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">即使在今天,要談論情慾,還是一件需要莫大勇氣的事,<u>何式凝</u>說:</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">「我覺得我在香港代表了一種聲音。」「自己一向提倡的,是對人的慾望的包容和接納,我說<b><span style="color: #002060;">性,底蘊其實是寬容</span></b>。」</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">為什麼這樣選擇?她說:「</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">personal is political</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">(個人即政治)」這就是主體性吧!忠於自己,是做出選擇和行動,然後盡心盡性地去貫徹自己的思想。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我們</span><span style="font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">可不可以</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">有一套抒述自身對性、身體、慾望經驗的專屬語言?「其實大家日日都在說,用自己的方式去說,只是並非人人喜歡聽。」也不是人人都能聽懂,隱匿在言語之後的激情洶湧,<u>何式凝</u>發現,學術上表述情慾、性、身體的語言,普通人都不會使用,「師奶不會用情慾的語言,但你會看到那種情慾的質感在裏面,雖然你不覺得她在說,但其實她已經說了。」</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">「她們所作的自我抒寫、表達和創作,都是一種情慾的表達」。然而插花畫畫,跟情慾何關?「她們會想,這些只是自己對生命的熱情,怎會是情慾的追尋?其實對我而言,兩者是同一種力量,同樣的</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">erotic energy</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">(情慾力量)。」這種情慾力量可施以在不同對象之上,以不同形式抒發實踐,一些人以性,一些以藝術,一些以音樂,五花八門,「每個人都有自己的溫柔,有自己的熱情,有自己欲求的東西,有自己的方向和表達方法」。慾望的表達,從不是窄路一條。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">社會不少道德猛將和機構爭着告訴我們性是什麼,形塑人們對性的觀感,指手劃腳愈多,愈阻礙個人對性的想像和感受。沒人能定義性是什麼,問題是性可以是什麼,個人如何以性作為一種自我的超越,或溝通的方式,情感的流瀉</span><span style="font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">?</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">「很多人不是很自由的,也不是很自由的愛人。」<u>何式凝</u>嘆道。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">「孤獨可能是作為人的一種恐懼。」關係</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">,是因為我們在世上需要有人一起共同生活、共同做事,如何形塑一種開放式的關係?真的需要在境界當中,不斷地去問,不斷地去打開。就像<u>一心</u>說的,</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">我</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">們</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">可</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">不可</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">以</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">不設限地,</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">一直去問</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">:</span><span lang="ZH-CN" style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">什麼是真正的政治、教育、媒體、職業、愛情?不是為了一個標準答案,而是為了讓我的視野和心量,越來越高廣、厚實。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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非常認同與喜歡文章裡這一段話:「<span style="font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">世上還有不同的關係模式讓人探索,例如開放式關係或多元關係,兩種關係不等於濫交縱情,也要建基於對伴侶的信任、坦誠,彼此的協調溝通。兩者亦有分別,開放式關係是容許伴侶有其他包含了性關係的親密關係,接受第三者的介入;而多元關係的「多元」,是性質問題,何式凝說,「如果看得闊一點,所有關係都是多元的」,多元關係不一定是男女之情,不能用實質的名詞去分類和界定,在多元關係裏,性是可有可無的;沒有性,也有很多情感上的表達,「我珍惜的是兩個人之間的溝通,那種親密感覺,對對方的了解,這是一種很</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-fareast-font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">pure</span><span style="font-family: DFKai-SB; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">(純粹)的東西,可能有性,可能沒有;沒有利益,很純粹的關係,這是很值得尊重和珍惜的。」</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">嚮往自由無縛,嚮往至真至善至美,嚮往建立最自由最美麗的關係,問,是為了讓心打開,讓生命更關廣,嚮往自己成為一個自由瀟灑的人,更嚮往讓關係在尊重裡,自由無縛,願意開放心胸,擁有最真的自己與關係。</span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-language: ZH-TW; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07569584955343706360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6212880209674186198.post-37170039469810862872014-09-09T15:04:00.000+08:002014-09-09T15:04:03.134+08:00男性社會的性別懲戒(09-09-2014 <u>一心</u>)<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07569584955343706360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6212880209674186198.post-68764806762353357772014-09-04T12:46:00.001+08:002014-09-04T12:46:46.037+08:00我夢想的夫妻關係(09-04-2014<u>一賢</u>)<br />
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">跟太太對話,我就事論事,太太很容易對號入座,然後我內心就升起苦受,有一種被親近的人誤會的感覺。怎麼一個和你生活了</span><span lang="EN-US">30</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">年的人,是這樣子看你的?</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">例如:她</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-bidi-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;">從冷凍室拿出昨天吃剩的半個貝果。貝果已買很久了,就剩這最後半個。我很單純地說:那包饅頭(其實是全麥有機素包子)快到期了!</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">她卻</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-bidi-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;">說我面色凝重、口氣是在指責她?</span><span lang="EN-US"> </span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">因為</span><span style="font-family: "PMingLiU","serif"; mso-bidi-font-family: PMingLiU; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 0pt;">我臉上沒有微笑以對嗎?</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">修行就是在鍛鍊「捨念清淨」──有這樣的「感受」,如何不讓他變成「想」的亂流?</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">她講的人不是我,只是她的取角。尊重她認知的角度和立場,這樣去看,就看到自己迴向的身口意還可以更清淨。念念轉正,感恩太太校正自己的身口意。</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">上座體驗無常,下座體驗一心。我們在世間的每一個時刻,都要注意身心的中心線。沒有慈悲喜捨、沒有全身放鬆去觸,身心的敏感度不夠靈敏,就很容易忽視身旁的人事物。當我們沒有注意到別人的身心接受度,一句不經意的玩笑話,可能讓對方身心收縮膨脹不良,造成負面的蝴蝶效應。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">晚上,很想問太太婚姻的看法:「你夢想的婚姻關係是什麼?」</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">感覺彼此沒有空間,知道不是時候,於是反問自己這樣的問題。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">「我夢想的夫妻關係是什麼?」</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">我夢想的夫妻是什麼?</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">先生是太太的分身;太太是先生肚子裡的蛔蟲。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">先生無論做什麼,太太都會欣賞;太太想要做什麼,先生都會尊重。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">先生要往東,太太不一定要往東,但太太不會要求他往西。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">先生的壞習慣,太太不會要求他改善,而且會接受,相信他也想做自己的最好。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">先生會尊重太太對任何事情的看法,從生活上的小事到生命中的大事。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">上面句中的先生換成太太,太太換成先生,是一樣的。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">經濟上,平常彼此互相獨立,合理分攤共同的開銷。但在對方需要協助的時候,雙方都願意提供自己能力上最大的支助。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">有任何困難,願意和對方坦誠溝通,一起面對。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">儘管如此,當一方隨時想要分手時,另一方都可以絕對地尊重。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">如果有孩子,願意一起承擔養育的責任,讓孩子有獨立自主的能力。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif;">當然最重要的,是願意給彼此心靈上最大的自由。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07569584955343706360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6212880209674186198.post-46154403368096110922014-08-02T00:21:00.001+08:002014-08-02T00:21:31.332+08:00法官打造的夫枷(2014-08-02<u>季菁</u>)<br />
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<span lang="EN-US">38</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">歲歌手</span><span lang="EN-US"> Sia Furler</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">,出生於澳洲南部,父母都是音樂人。</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">她</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">是支持性別多元社會的雙性人,</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">「我不在乎你的性別,我在乎的是你這個人」。<span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">她有天才型的創作力,是眾多有名歌曲的作者。</span><span lang="EN-US">4</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">年前診斷出罹患「瀰漫性毒性甲狀腺腫</span><span lang="EN-US">(Graves' disease)</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">」,</span><span style="font-family: PMingLiU, serif; line-height: 22pt; text-indent: 24pt;">原本她已打算退隱,經甲狀腺素替代療法有好些,再度復出。</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">這個月剛訂婚,這次是男生,對象是紀錄片製作人</span><span lang="EN-US">Erik Anders Lang</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">。</span> <span lang="EN-US"> <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Maddie Ziegler 11</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">歲,扮演小時候的</span><span lang="EN-US">Sia</span><span style="font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: 新細明體; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-fareast; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">,相當搶眼,詮釋音樂的舞步,有時讓人忘了聽正在唱的歌!!</span><span lang="EN-US"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US">Party girls don't
get hurt<br />
Can't feel anything, when will I learn<br />
I push it down, push it down<br />
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I'm the one "for a good time call"<br />
Phone's blowin' up, ringin' my doorbell<br />
I feel the love, feel the love<br />
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1, 2, 3 1, 2, 3 drink<br />
1, 2, 3 1, 2, 3 drink<br />
1, 2, 3 1, 2, 3 drink<br />
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Throw 'em back, till I lose count<br />
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I'm gonna swing from the chandelier, from the chandelier<br />
I'm gonna live like tomorrow doesn't exist<br />
Like it doesn't exist<br />
I'm gonna fly like a bird through the night, feel my tears as they dry<br />
I'm gonna swing from the chandelier, from the chandelier<br />
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And I'm holding on for dear life, won't look down won't open my eyes<br />
Keep my glass full until morning light, 'cause I'm just holding on for tonight<br />
Help me, I'm holding on for dear life, won't look down won't open my eyes<br />
Keep my glass full until morning light, 'cause I'm just holding on for tonight<br />
On for tonight<br />
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Sun is up, I'm a mess<br />
Gotta get out now, gotta run from this<br />
Here comes the shame, here comes the shame<br />
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1, 2, 3 1, 2, 3 drink<br />
1, 2, 3 1, 2, 3 drink<br />
1, 2, 3 1, 2, 3 drink<br />
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Throw 'em back till I lose count<br />
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I'm gonna swing from the chandelier, from the chandelier<br />
I'm gonna live like tomorrow doesn't exist<br />
Like it doesn't exist<br />
I'm gonna fly like a bird through the night, feel my tears as they dry<br />
I'm gonna swing from the chandelier, from the chandelier<br />
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And I'm holding on for dear life, won't look down won't open my eyes<br />
Keep my glass full until morning light, 'cause I'm just holding on for tonight<br />
Help me, I'm holding on for dear life, won't look down won't open my eyes<br />
Keep my glass full until morning light, 'cause I'm just holding on for tonight<br />
On for tonight<br />
On for tonight<br />
'Cause I'm just holding on for tonight<br />
Oh I'm just holding on for tonight<br />
On for tonight<br />
On for tonight<br />
'Cause I'm just holding on for tonight<br />
'Cause I'm just holding on for tonight<br />
Oh I'm just holding on for tonight<br />
On for tonight<br />
On for tonight<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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Unknownhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13137009107676139635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6212880209674186198.post-51815640340992066412014-06-08T06:24:00.003+08:002014-06-08T06:25:45.355+08:00直面婚外情的自信<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 22.0pt; mso-pagination: widow-orphan;">
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">太太說瑞的朋友因為先生和女同事經常一起出差,最近一次出差還因為出去玩,忘了小兒子的生日,當他發現先生將行車記錄器電源抜掉時,先生又刻意說謊。他覺得不應該懷疑先生,可是內心又停不下想蘊,已經接近憂鬱症的程度。</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">瑞跟她的朋友說要相信先生,她們這些讀書會的女士們,也都認為做太太的應該要相信先生。</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">她問我的看法。因為她的朋友都是女生,她認為男生和女生看法可能不一樣。</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">我說看法跟是男是女沒有關係,反而跟懂不懂得真正的兩性關係,看法會有所不同。真正的兩性關係是鼓勵彼此做最真的自己,不會為了維持兩個人的關係而虛情假意。</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">做先生的言行已經得不到太太的信任了,怎麼可以兀自壓抑要做太太的去相信先生。</span><b><span style="color: #002060; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">相信不是相信先生一定不會有婚外情,相信是相信先生也想做最真的自己。</span></b><br />
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">所以當內心對先生有疑時,不是一方面用道德信條強迫自己去相信先生,一方面又心亂如麻,讓停不下的想蘊熾盛,在心中延燒。應該面對問題,先讓自己沉澱下來,再找個適當的時間和先生就事論事,把自己的感覺說出來,表達自己尊重先生的選擇,並且願意聆聽先生的說法。如果先生真的沒有婚外情,他會感激太太的真誠,以後會更真心對待彼此;如果先生確實有婚外情,他也會認真思考什麼是自己真正的要,選擇做最真的自己。</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">傳統中國文化的泛道德論,不尊重個人的性自主權與個別差異,視婚姻為唯一正當性行為的契約,強迫夫妻對房事有義務與對等的興致,基於信賴原則,強迫自己一味相信對方是正人君子,絕對不會有婚外情,很不自然。這樣壓抑嫉妒,背離真心,不是真正的愛。真正的愛一定是對自己有信心</span><span style="color: #002060; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">,永遠</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">允許</span><span style="color: #002060; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">先生可以</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">重新選擇,除舊約、佈新約,單純、由衷、浪漫,</span><span style="color: #002060; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">相信先生在尋找最乾淨的靈魂與最真的關係</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">,</span><span style="color: #002060; font-family: "新細明體","serif"; mso-ascii-font-family: Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: 新細明體; mso-bidi-font-size: 12.0pt; mso-font-kerning: 0pt; mso-hansi-font-family: Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">也</span><span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">允許彼此做最真的自己。</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">婚外情的吸引力在互相傾聽、深情凝視,不在有性關係。婚內情的折舊率,決定於互相傾聽的多少與深淺。</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 新細明體, serif;">男女婚前,愛情比親情重要;男女婚後,親情比愛情重要。這也許就是兩性關係的現實。</span><span style="line-height: 22pt; text-indent: 24pt;"> </span></div>
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